It is more than just the use of laughter that separates a man’s interactions with other men and a woman’s interactions with other women. It is how the laughter arises from each situation. Men tend to tell basic jokes or display their wit. Ever been in the presence of a large group of men when one tells the first joke? It never ends there. After a polite chuckle from the others, a second member of the group will begin “Have you ever heard the one about the barber who…” A third joke will follow, and then a forth, and so on. Instead of laughing and enjoying each other’s jokes, it now has become a “joke-off,” a competition to see who has the funniest joke and will walk away as being thought the cleverest of the group.
Conversely, women do not just tell jokes. They tell stories. Whether it ranges from the simple klutz moment of dropping all their books down the stairs that morning to the hilarious vacation they had with Uncle Joe four years ago, the laughter caused here comes from an actual event, not just a joke or sarcastic remark. Either way, these stories are personal to the teller and in turn, to the receiver. Perhaps this is why women laugh more, or are more likely to laugh in another woman’s presence. Their laughter comes from a source that is meaningful to all parties involved and is much deeper than a bar joke. Through these stories, women can share little tidbits about their lives to one another. Even though laughter is not the start of the connection between two or three women, it is what allows that connection to grow. If a woman were to not laugh at another’s embarrassing story, they most likely would not continue their acquaintance with one another. It is laughter that allows them to feel comfortable and precedes the exchange of more inside information about their lives. Again, men do not feel the need for laughter to be present when hanging out with their “best-bud.” But girls, we cannot deny we need laughter. In this I again repeat: laughter is most decidedly feminine. We let men use it, but only a woman, or more specifically a group of women, are able to use it to its full potential.